One of the most enjoyable things on earth, for me, is a good kitchen table conversation.
A kitchen table conversation is, loosely translated by moi, an informal type of gathering with friends, family and/or strangers that promotes deep conversation and rewarding socialization. It doesn't have to take place at a kitchen table, it can happen anywhere - around a campfire, at a restaurant, in someone's living room, on a nature walk.
The unspoken rules are that people are allowed to finish their sentence/thought/point without interruption, opinions can be challenged respectfully, and the spirit of community remain throughout the conversation. No name calling is tolerated, and agreeing to disagree is a wonderful way to end a heated point. Yeah, things can get heated....especially if it's a point one feels passionately about. But heated doesn't mean argumentative. Heated can just be equal amounts of passion on conflicting viewpoints.
Oh, and no electronic devices. Yup, no texting, iPadding or the like unless the person is expecting an important call. Giving your full attention to someone is the ultimate compliment, and it's respectful.
I've been having these kinds of conversations with a new friend, and it's been unique in that we're both alumni of the professional counseling program at our alma mater. That said, we have learned how to communicate well, how to listen, and this helps to facilitate a thoughtful, respectful and engaging exchange.
We by no means agree on everything - our political and spiritual viewpoints are very different, but we've been able to express our thoughts on certain subjects and learn from each other without feeling the need to defend or submit. We talk, we listen, we learn. We've been able to leave the "ego" out when discussing the more hot topics - our talks never feel didactic.
It's knowing I can have this kind of conversation that makes me okay with muddling through or walking away from the less-rewarding ones.
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